Wow, I’ve not published a blog post in a long time! I’m not going to beat myself up about this though, as per my article on doing things badly. August and September were busy months and something had to give, so the blogging was it. This is all about living a balanced life after all. I have still been writing and now I have several half-finished posts that I’ll hopefully get back to and share soon enough. For now though, here’s how these months have been and an update on life currently.
At the moment sleep and diet are good. I’m still ticking along on Slimming World, taking a lot of time out to celebrate my birthday and go on holiday to New York. I’m approaching my weight loss as a balanced lifestyle approach, rather than trying to lose as much as I can as quickly as I can. I want to get to a weight I can sustain and have a life at the same time. There are definitely days when my brain hijacks that thought and tells me I have to be a certain/size or weight but thankfully I manage to take back control from such a destructive thought pattern.
What isn’t going as well is my body management (if that’s even a thing?) I’m so out of routine with any exercise now. My knee pain has been particularly bad which limits the amount of walking I can do with the dog and everything is seizing up from a lack of movement. I’ve then become less inclined to exercise because I’m stiff and achy. And this is all my doing. I could get frustrated at myself but that won’t help. I need to do is find something that I can consistently do and build it into my routine. And do rehab for my knee. I’m too young to be limping around!
Relationship needs have been met so many ways over the last two months. I’ve had some great time out with friends, have been networking with people in the local area, seen my family and spent quality time with Dave. There’s not much more that needs to be said about it. I have too many highlights to put into this post, otherwise it’ll end up being a monster post! I’ll just put a photo collage below so you can see some of the things I’ve been up to.
In August I took on some consulting work. This has been both great, and terrible, for my self-esteem needs. On one hand, it’s given me an enjoyable challenge to throw myself into. So much imposter syndrome has come up on the other hand. It was writing a report, which I knew I’d be able to do, but on a topic I don’t know so there was a steep learning curve. New York in the middle made it high pressure to finished in time. I met the deadline though, and the person I did it for was happy. There has been mention of more work coming my way, which is always a good thing.
I feel going to New York falls into the self-esteem needs category, under variety and stimulation! We had a great time. We did all the normal touristy bits like the bus tours, going up the Rockafeller, out to the Statue of Liberty, Times Square, the 9/11 museum. I’ve been before, 11 years ago, but it was Dave’s first time so it was great to re-visit some of the spots I loved. And there was obviously a lot of food and drink. Time for another photo collage!
I’m looking forward to focusing more on my learning and self-care in October. These things aren’t where I’d want them to be and I know I can improve them with a few tweaks. I’ve not looked at my copywriting course since getting great feedback on my first assignment. And the writing got pushed off the priority list, along with those self-care things that make me feel better in my body.
Higher Purpose Needs
I’m still feeling ambivalent about the coaching business. Having time to do the consulting work has allowed me to not think about it. That’s been quite nice actually. I’m not sure trying to set up a business that requires me to be in my own head all the time is best for me. I don’t want to go back to a more traditional type of working though. I’ve been focusing on looking at the bigger picture. I wrote about this in my email to my community this week (if you want to join my email list you can do so at the end of this post. I’d love to have you there.)
When I consider the “bigger picture” elements I wanted in my life when I started this crazy journey, they’re mostly here already. I wanted flexibility and the ability to control my working hours. The consulting allows that in spades, as I’ve had to work only 8 days over the last 2 months. I also wanted an income that allows me to contribute to the household and live the quality of life I want, which those 8 days allow. I wanted something that challenged me and offered enough variety, which this also does.
There are some elements missing. It doesn’t meet my desire to work with people on a personal level. I’ve recently volunteered with the Samaritans, however, which I think will give me that in spades. I start my training in October and I’m excited to see how it goes. The consulting also doesn’t meet my creative needs, but it allows me enough time to keep writing which is a creative outlet I love. For now, I’m going to focus on these elements and see what the consultancy brings for me. It’s an exciting place to be.
That was my not quite so balanced life for the last two months! How have you been while I’ve been away?
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